Naturally, the idea of a funeral is unsettling to you. Facing the fact that a loved one has died is incredibly difficult, and it will take time to feel better. Even if you did not know the deceased too well, funerals are an intimidating concept. You may feel uncomfortable showing certain emotions in front of others, or you may feel anxious about seeing distant relatives again.
Those with social anxiety find funerals particularly hard to cope with and will feel overwhelmed at the thought of attending. If the funeral is an open casket, individuals may feel scared about seeing the deceased. It may feel like the best thing to do in this situation is not to attend. However, you may regret not paying your respects and saying goodbye to the deceased.
Here are a few ways to help you overcome your fear of funerals.
Accept that it’s okay to be upset and show emotion.
You will not be the only person that is upset about the loss of a loved one. Most people at the funeral service will be feeling emotional. If you do shed tears, you will not be the only one to do so. You will not be judged for crying at the loss of a relative or friend; crying is natural when a person is grieving.
Know that it is also okay to be scared of death.
The concept of death is frightening. If you are feeling fearful about an upcoming funeral because that concept of death scares you, that is a normal feeling to have. Thanatophobia, the fear of death, is very common. Many of us worry about our health or the health of family members and friends. For many, death is a taboo subject that is not spoken of regularly. When a loved one dies, it forces you to confront mortality in ways that you may not have experienced before. Remember that the fear of death is natural, and you should feel no shame about it.
Find someone to support you on the day.
If you feel overwhelmed at the thought of attending a funeral, find a support partner that can help you through the day. Agree to stay by each other’s side and be there for each other if either of you begins to feel upset or anxious. You are not alone in your grief, and your support partner can help you through the day just by being by your side.
Take care of yourself.
Grief is a distressing emotion to feel, and it is vital that you are kind to yourself while mourning the loss of a family member or friend. Make sure to seek support from those around you who can help you process the loss. You may feel like you want to lock yourself away, but the love and support of those around you will help to ease your emotional pain.
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